How to Deal When the Struggle is Real

How do you deal with the stress of being an adult? Dang where do I even start. From the multiple responsibilities to bills to relationships to being a parent, adulting is so hard and I just wish they would have prepared us for this more in school. Trying to figure this world out on our own and in our early twenties is super hard. Especially fresh out of college where trying to get a decent job is nearly impossible because they want 5-7 years experience and all you have to offer is a degree and maybe an internship. I've been lucky enough, for the time being, to get to stay at home and raise Dixie (which is a full time job in itself) while my husband works his butt off to provide for our family. But with that comes my responsibility of handling our finances and keeping the house running and it can be really overwhelming sometimes. From student loans, car notes, and credit card bills the amount of debt between my husband and I is a lot (as with most millennials). So how do you deal with keeping up with it all? That's a question I've been asking myself for while and heres what I've come up with:

1. Breathe. My anxiety(another post for another day) really tries to get to me some days and I am constantly having to remind myself to just breathe. And that everything is in God's hands and it will be okay.

2. Make a plan and try your hardest to stick to it. Even if that is a day to day plan and you just make a list of things to do, people to see, or a budget to stick to, follow through with it. But also don't beat yourself up if you don't make it through your list everyday. Like I said, adulting is hard.

3. Try to make time for yourself. I am a HUGE advocate for mental health and firmly believe you need some time to yourself to detox and take your mind off of the day to day grind and make sure you still have a straight head on your shoulders. Not taking time for this can lead to major stress, anxiety, and sometimes depression. As much as I need to remind myself of this, you DO NOT have to carry the weight of the world on your shoulders.

4. Hold yourself accountable to your goals. Have a friend or a spouse that you can relay them to and make sure they check on you regularly. Achieving even the tiniest goals can make you feel super accomplished.

5. Don't forget that you are not alone. We're all struggling to get through things whether some people like to admit it or not. So don't be afraid to open up about it. You might be surprised to find out that people around you are going through the same thing and can be there for you to lean on.

Everyday is different and some days will be harder or easier than others depending on

what you are going through, but you'll get through it just like you always have. I hope this gave you a little bit of insight on some of the things I've been working on lately. Hopefully this is helpful and helps you feel a little less alone. And maybe you can impliment a few of these things if you don't already practice them yourself. This was just me being a little vulnerable, which is really hard to do sometimes, but I thought I would open up to you guys and show you a little bit of what I struggle with on a day to day basis. If anyone ever needs to talk about ANYTHING they are going through, I'm here to listen! Just drop me a message at the bottom of the home page. And of course I will never judge. Meanwhile, enjoy some pics of me and my mini in our new matching pajamas! :-)

Stay strong my beauties,

Tay